#DearMommyPracticality: Intimacy In Pregnancy

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Dear Mommy Practicality,

First of all congratulations on your third pregnancy! Just like you, I’m five months on the way. I’m writing to you because I want to ask how’s your intimacy with your husband now that you’re pregnant? Tumamlay po ba or sumigla lalo? In all honesty, very active ang sex life namin ni husband, but that was before I got pregnant to our second baby. Now, it seems like he’s slowly losing interest and I feel bad and insecure. He tells me that he’s just scared he might hurt our baby and that he’s stressed at work. Is there a way we maintain our intimacy even when I’m pregnant? Right now po kasi, I think because of my pregnant hormones, my interest in having more frequent sexy times with him, increased. Any advice on how to address this matter please?

Thank you and more power to your helpful blog!

Sincerely Yours,

Preggy Mommy X

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Dear Preggy Mommy X,

Thank you for your letter. This is such an interesting topic to talk about. Congratulations too on your second bundle of joy! Regarding your concern, like you, I am also very much in love with my husband that I want to smother him with all my love by being intimate with him, ALL THE TIME! My affection with him hasn’t changed at all. But like your husband, he also held back a bit during my first trimester because he was scared he might hurt me or the baby or that he might affect my pregnancy, and because my boobs had become enormous as if they have lives of their own and sensitive, he’s scared he might not properly handle them girls. At the same time, he’s a bit stressed at work which I read, is one of the reasons why sometimes we couldn’t get it on as much as before.

Now, don’t feel bad or insecure, there are many ways to still maintain intimacy between you and your husband. Intimacy is not all about sex, although sex is better and really good right? Here are some tips to address this matter:

First of all, consult with your OB-GYN if you don’t have any pregnancy related issues that would hinder you from having sexy times with husband. If your OB gives you a green light, then by all means go. But if you have some complications, sex would need to take a back seat for a while, until your doctor says you’re safe to engage in sexual activities.

Communication is key. Talk to your husband about your sexual desires, your feelings, and how you want and need him really bad. Talk about how even when you’re pregnant, you still wanna get jiggy with him. It also helps when you assure him that it’s safe and he’s not going to hurt you or the baby.

Explore other pregnancy-friendly positions that will be comfortable for both of you. From ~~my experience~~ what I read, side-by-side spooning, woman on top, reverse cowgirl, modified missionary (woman at the edge of the bed) and doggy style are the best positions both of you could enjoy. Just make sure you are comfortable and your belly is not compromised.

If sex is not possible, there are other means to be intimate with partner. Getting naked together, caressing, hugging, kissing, or playing with each other without the intercourse are some of the ways. It could also be as simple as holding each other’s hand, scheduling a date night, or watching a movie before bedtime. Intimacy is about expressing your love. Intimacy is about communicating openly and lovingly. Intimacy is enjoying each other’s company.

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These are some of my practical advice when it comes to intimacy in pregnancy love. Just remember to always consult with your OB-GYN on safety and medical advice when it comes to sexual engagements with your husband. Don’t feel bad about yourself nor feel insecure brought about the physical and hormonal changes of pregnancy. Your husband loves you very much and you’re the sexiest woman there is in the universe for him. Just communicate what you think and feel with your husband and be creative on how to get more intimate with each other.

That’s all I do too, communicate my needs, my wants, my desires, my feelings, everything. By communicating, we become very connected and in tune with each other. Now I feel like I’m really the sexiest preggy mommah there is, in my husband’s eyes only of course.

God bless you dear! Hope this set of advice helps.

Love,

Louise

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