I'm a NEW Mom Again!

I still remember clearly how I carried him for nine months in my womb.  I still remember how much in...

I still remember clearly how I carried him for nine months in my womb.  I still remember how much in pain I was during my 20 hour labor and how I almost lost my life postpartum due to internal hemorrhage.  I was just 24 when he made me a mother for the first time.  I wouldn't ever forget the first experiences of being a mom with him.

As I've shared in this blog before, I was a single mom to him.  So I played the roles of both a mom and a dad.  From a stay-at-home-mom I took an entry level marketing job to be able to support him.  I didn't complain that I was earning little because what's important for me was I was able to spend a lot of time with him in the morning before going to work.  Since it was an entry-level job, I didn't have to render overtime so I always went home early to bond with him endlessly.  I was a young mom and had a lot of energy for play.  I could say he got the best of my younger years because I carried him a lot, rolled on the floor with him, went to many places even when we commuted, and played so many games from rough to quiet board games.  I was never absent in his school activities.  Those were very simple and happy times bringing him up as a child.

Now that he turned 13, I'm born as a NEW Mom again.  A new mom to a teenager.  The era of treating him as a child and holding on to him tightly has ended.  I have to let go a little to let him experience life and learn about it on his own.  He's entered the teen years and he's ready to be more independent, to explore responsibly on life's loops and hoops, to possibly have his heart broken, to start building his character, to work on achieving his long term dreams, and to enjoy high school and make it the most memorable years of his life.
The night before his birthday, I lingered in his room.  Tucked him to sleep for the last time as a child.  Played with his hair to put him to sleep for the last time as a child.  I talked to him about life as a child for the last time.  I asked him what his birthday wishes were and how he felt now that he's officially a teenager.  I spent time with him as a child for the last time.  Even when he was already sleeping, I stayed and stared at him.  Staring at him made me more emotional.  Everything we did when he was younger came flashing back, those were happy and well-spent times.  It's different now, he's no longer that chubby boy I used to bring with me wherever I went.  He's grown-up.  He already knows what he wants to be and where he wants be in the future.  Somehow I give myself a thumbs up for the years of bringing him up the way he is now.  I am excited and scared at the same time for his future self.  But all I have to do is be present, guide, observe, and watch him soar.
To my teenager son, as your mom, of course I still want you around me as much you can.  I still want you to hug me, kiss me, and want me around you every time.  I still want you to call "Mommy" whenever you're hurt.  I still want you to ask me the whats and whys of the world.  Please know that even if you're now spending more time in school, in your basketball training and with friends, and even if you've changed (for the better and because you're now a teen), Mommy will always be the same.  I'll always wait for you to come home.  I'll always wait for you ask me about school and relationships, and ask me help if you need it.  As you transition to this new phase in your life, Mommy will also adjust.  I'll start by letting go of your hand and as you let go of mine, I'll try my very best to not hold you back and treat you like a little child.  May you enjoy this journey and I pray you'll do well and do good.  I love you Dandre and I'm very proud of you!  To me you'll always be a baby!

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  1. anna lechadores robellesSeptember 15, 2016 at 8:24 AM

    Aw, This was an inspiration blog for other mom. More blessings and enjoy

  2. anna lechadores robellesSeptember 15, 2016 at 10:45 AM

    Thank you for sharing miss Louise, I liked Rica's messages from the bible. especially the Encouragement "The one who blesses others is abundantly blessed; those who help others are helped" from (Proverbs 11:25).. I always aimed to have a cleaned and fresh home, because since I was a kid my mom trained us to be tidy and organized. Maybe I am blessed because my husband also see the same way. Thanks I learned a lot from your blog post :)

  3. anna lechadores robellesSeptember 15, 2016 at 11:04 AM

    yummy :) thanks for sharing the recipe

  4. Thank you Anna! :) God bless you and thanks for your support!

  5. Love this post! you continue to inspire me as a former single mom too. :)

  6. Thank you Ravene. This means so much to me. :)




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