Lessons Learned: Introducing The Concept of School To A Child
This summer, we enrolled our toddler to Pre-school summer classes to prepare him for Nursery and admittedly, we failed. Wes is already thr...
This summer, we enrolled our toddler to Pre-school summer classes to prepare him for Nursery and admittedly, we failed.
Wes is already three and a half years old and may already be accepted as Nursery in school. I remember my older son Dandre, who started summer play school just right about Wes' age now. We got him into the right school and it worked perfectly well for him. We did the same for the little one expecting to have the same readiness and excitement for school as his kuya did.
I realized this when after a few days in summer school, he was already making up reasons not to go and if he agrees to go to school, he's using all his delaying tactics.
But, he seemed to be having fun and cooperative with his summer class teacher in these photos, look oh:
As he went along, we observed that when he enters the classroom he heads straight to table activities and paper work. I could imagine his heart screaming this, "Can I play first?!!!!" In my older son's pre-school, play and socialization were priorities than academics. But play wasn't part of his daily school experience.
According to psychoanalyst Gail Saltz, MD, an associate professor of psychiatry at the New York-Presbyterian Hospital/Weill Cornell School of Medicine in New York City,
"Preschool is really for socialization, to introduce the idea that learning can be fun, and to teach kids how to share, compromise, and get along as a group."As expected, on his seventh and eighth day, he started crying whenever we mention that it's time to go to school! He would hurriedly go back to the room, pretend to sleep and refuse to take a bath or dress up. He now dislikes the idea of school. Honestly, I feel bad because I failed somewhere.
We were supposed to enroll him this school year as Nursery, but because of this, we are skipping this year and we decided to just allow him to play more, explore more, and have more fun at home.
Lessons Learned (Which I Want To Share To All Of You Moms of Incoming Pre-Schoolers):
It's important to make time out of your very busy schedule to research on schools offering programs that encourage the child to learn through play and socialization. It's important as well to ensure that the curriculum the school offers is right for the age of the child. We did our research and asked around. The school where we enrolled him this summer was the most recommended. Apparently, how they do it wasn't fit to what our child needs.
Yes, we've done our research and according to it, this school offers this and that. Although I personally came to the school to check its facilities, I failed at checking how they facilitate their methods of teaching during an actual class. I paid right away (at least half of the summer class' fee) because I got excited for my son being in school already. EEEP, too much excitement didn't work for us.
DON'T FORCE THE IDEA.
We want our son to be in school at the right age, not too early and not too late. But if like what happened to us, our son doesn't want to go to school anymore, then we're giving him a break. Consider all pros and cons, talk to your partner/husband/wife about it, decide and never force the idea of school to your child. It may be counter-productive and may develop unlikeness to school in your child. There's still Kinder and Preparatory anyway.
SPEND (MORE) TIME.
Now that we've decided not to put him to formal schooling this year, it's important for us to spend more time with him and find a way to home school him more. This also means, spending time to research what lessons should we be teaching him as well. Although we already taught him and he's knowledgeable about the alphabet, numbers, colors, shapes, opposites and he likes drawing and coloring. I will make sure to instill in him that learning is fun and that it doesn't have to be too serious at all. Not this time. After all, it's true that the best teachers for the child are his parents!
I'm a second time mom, and indeed, parenting and motherhood is a totally different experience altogether for every child. It's like I'm starting all over again. Hits and misses are part of it. But I'm happy to be taking this journey the second time around (and third hopefully next year!!!). I wouldn't have it any other way! Happy parenting loves!