Sunday, August 12, 2012
10 Child Discipline Strategies That Work
Sunday, August 12, 2012Before I put my kids to sleep, I had a little discussion with my eldest and there's a guilt feeling in my heart that I may have gone ove...
Before I put my kids to sleep, I had a little discussion with my eldest and there's a guilt feeling in my heart that I may have gone overboard.
Because of this, I've searched around on disciplining a grade-schooler. Here is a compilation of discipline strategies:
Questions like - Have I gone too far? Was I already yelling? Was I really making myself clear without losing too much temper? Did I make him feel down instead of encouraging him to do better? Did I say negative things? Will my current style really work on him? What will be the effect of this to him in the future? Did he really understand what I said? Did I scare him off instead of teach him to do the right thing next time? - had entered my mind since we ended the discussion. Actually, as I type away right now, I still feel guilty.
On the other hand, I may also be too hard on myself right now for battering myself with guilt. Every parent just wants what's best for their children, teach them what's right from wrong, what's acceptable and not and desires to build a better future for them. Sometimes there are road blocks that we couldn't escape from especially my kid is nearing the tween age, the adolescent stage, when it may become more difficult, if things will not be corrected right now.
Looking back at the discussion earlier, I think I was talking too much, asking him questions brought about by anger. Expecting him already to give me an answer I won't like. Hence, making me more intense and more upset. Those tears in his eyes, that I know he's trying to hold back with a lump in his throat, signal hurt or maybe fear. How do I get him to remember everything I teach him?
Don't get me wrong, he's not an unruly kid. In fact he behaves really well inside and out of our home which is endearing of him. He's a good boy overall, a good student, a helpful and responsible kid. I think I am expecting too much. I just want him to remember everything I teach him, form a good habit out of it which later on will have a major effect on his future adult life.
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