Oh No! Our Yaya Is Pregnant (Part 2)
It took awhile before I get to the part 2 of this Yaya story. So here's the continuation. This...
It took awhile before I get to the part 2 of this Yaya story. So here's the continuation. This experience made me realized three things: 1) Being a domestic employer is not that easy.; 2) You can't help but help a domestic employee in need or in desperation even when it's beyond your obligation.; and 3) It's important to background check your domestic employee.
Going back to the difficult situation our yaya's in which I enumerated in my Oh No! Our Yaya Is Pregnant (Part 1) post, summarized here:
- She cannot tell parents or any of her family because her papa and brothers might "kill" her.
- She can't tell tell the baby daddy who already has a family.
- She wants to have her baby adopted.
- She has no means to support the baby being one of her family's breadwinners.
- Their house was wiped out in Samar due to Yolanda storm surge.
- She's a teenager.
- Immediate OB Check Up This is the very first step we did to know how many weeks she's already pregnant, when will her due date be and if she and the baby are healthy. We had her registered and checked up at a nearby health center. The result gave us the SHOCK of our lives!
WHAAAAAAAAAAAAT??? She''s already giving birth on January 7!!! As I've said in my previous post, Macky and I were guessing that she's only five months on the way. Now this gives us a very short timeline to prepare for everything.
- Find her a shelter for teenage pregnancy. - There were two shelters that were suggested to me by friends, one in Pasig and the other is in Quezon City. I was told that these shelters are for teenage pregnant moms, or pregnant women who are not married and want to seek refuge, with an objective to counsel them, and keep them from thinking about abortion as an answer to their situation. These shelters, according to my good friend Joy, takes care of the counselling, medical and childbirth expenses. They've set up a labor room where volunteer midwives are assigned to help their patients. They have DSWD social workers who help pregnant women go through pregnancy physically and psychologically.
- Help her with adoption. - The shelters' DSWD social workers not only volunteer to give counselling but to also process adoption of the babies born in case the mothers don't intend to keep their babies. But as told, they first encourage and influence the mothers to keep their babies. They only offer adoption help if the mothers are decided, without turning back, to have their babies adopted.
- Take her in again after childbirth. - She will be resting a month or two in the shelter after giving birth. We asked her first if she still wants to come back to us or if she has other plans. She said she still wants to stay with us and be my son's nanny. We are her employers and whatever help we are giving her is out of goodwill, nothing that she needs to repay in debt. Of course, there's a period where we will have no yaya for our toddler and that's another challenge for us. We have to look for a temporary yaya quickly.